In our ever dynamic interpersonal world, one thing I noticed is loyalty and consistency helps in gluing relationships. Know that people make mistakes all the time as we are organic. Even closest loved ones can be irritable if stressed and in close quarters. Similarly, a friend may be out of step though you respect everything they do 99.9% of the time. How do you let go of these details and think big? Your logical mind races to dissect the anatomy of rights and wrongs. Not to say, you have your own blindspots more than you want to acknowledge. In the end, what I noticed what successful (i.e., magnanimous ones) people do is think in terms of headings than the detail in the text. The heading is- They are good people. They are yours. They are keepers. You navigate the course with these major pointers as rudder and stay the course of rich fabric of longterm relationships. With loyalty and consistency.
Thinking with Headlines
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Intimacy: “Capture the moment”
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There was a crisis in Oak Park, a suburb right next to Chicago. A 15-year old girl ended her...
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You know, life itself is much like the act of breathing. We don’t need to think of death (let...
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Actionable Items and Suggestions to Invite Fun and Stability: Maintaining the Wheel of Life- Part 3.A
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Actionable items are like the rim of the wheel of life. Where the rubber hits the road. Constantly people...
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Transgender Youth: Let’s Begin to Understand at God Speed
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Society is learning about transgender as we speak. Trans means across in Latin, and transgender means “across gender.” Yes,...
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Tune up with Mike and Mani: Brain Science Step by Step Brain health explained in lay terms by leading...
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Ambience at Home: Fun Begins with Action
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# Ambience # home # classical conditioning # operant conditioning # behavioral psychology # fun # life We don’t...
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Design Daily Life
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Hello, Hello! Let’s reflect on fortifying our inner strength. I figured that those who find artful living are those...
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Holidays with People You Love: Respecting Outsiders and Reacting To Insiders
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You would think you are genuine, happy, with all the guards down, and easy- peasy being at home! It...
I love the headlines writing. Myself and others go down roads that may not always be the best avenues. With that said I have found that some of my strongest relationships are with others who don’t point out my mistakes but celebrate my wins. I have learned to allow others to just live Thier life and don’t give opinions when not asked. The trick for me is family I always think I have the best answer for them. I regularly have to embrace the moment between reactions to slow my roll. Love you Mani
Joanne, I wonder if we intuitively learn to restrain giving opinions when there are clear boundaries with outsiders. It is the intimacy that allows us to express more freely, such as in our own family right?! Recently, I am trying to get the hang of taking delight in just watching the action. I am convincing myself that it is my new hobby!