Treat Reactivity as “Static.” Keep it Simple.

A great way to view reactivity is seeing it as “static.” Say you mean something well, or don’t mean anything bad in approaching someone and say it- and the person reacts. It is like static. It comes from the interpretation of the reactive person’s own inner dictionary based on their history or what they went through, and has little or nothing to do with you. There is no value in reacting back, whatsoever. If possible, it’s good to speak softly to explain yourself once or simply let it be. Do not waste your energy. This reactivity from others it is like static. They are just responding with a different frame of reference.

We may be on the same page on what occurred, but draw responses from our own experiences. It could be static at times. Unexpected. Unpredictable. Not a big deal.

Sometimes people may say something rough, you can say “I hear you” or “I see what you mean” without saying “That is your point of view.” The former two are neutral, and the last response can be your reaction. Why bother! It is harmless, non-participatory for you to treat it like a static. It is easier to start thinking like that! We move on from the static without blinking an eyelid. No?